This video is from the Forever Nester chapter in How To Be a Friend Indeed to a Friend In Need during a Grief Journey.

What would I say to 20 year old me who just gave birth to this beautiful boy? Nothing. I would take that baby from her arms and hold him so that she could sleep. I would hug her and let her cry on my shoulder because she was so exhausted from being the “strong” one.

What I learned from my own experiences, and from observing and listening to hospice patients and their families, could fill a book. That is why I wrote How To Be a Friend Indeed to a Friend in Need During a Grief Journey.

Written from the heart, it is a slightly different take on a book about grieving. It isn’t about grieving, per se, or necessarily for the griever, it is about scenarios of loss that cause grief and how to be with the griever.

We all just want to help. We don’t know what to say or do. Sometimes we make it about ourselves instead of the one suffering loss. Sometimes we say something that really hurts or offends. Other times we put more burden on the griever as we tell them to “let me know if you need anything” etc.

It is a murky area of care. Wanting to do and say something to bring comfort.